Addressing Your Fears About EMDR
When a client comes in with a trauma history that seems to be contributing to current symptoms like depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, relationship difficulties, etc., I will often bring up utilizing EMDR to process through that trauma; and, as a result, being able to let go of the unhealthy coping mechanisms they have created for themselves. However; when having this discussion, clients are sometimes uncertain and even fearful of the process. Lets explore some of the reasons as to why this can happen:
(Refer to previous blog post “All Your Questions About EMDR Answered” to learn more about what EMDR is)
Fear of Being Vulnerable
Processing through traumatic experiences means exploring your deepest emotions and thoughts which can feel intense and scary when you are facing those for the first time. The fear of judgement and the uncertainty of what memories or feelings may resurface can also contribute to the reluctance around vulnerability.
Fear of Losing Control
Experiencing vulnerability may lead clients to think “what if I can’t control it or manage it?” which can be daunting specially if they have been trying to avoid those feelings. This fear is often exacerbated by the idea of having to put down the emotional and protective walls they have created over the years or even by trauma surrounding emotions like being called “sensitive” any time an emotion was expressed or being around an emotionally chaotic environment growing up where parents were not able to regulate.
Fear of Judgement
Although therapy is usually considered a non-judgemental space when you can allow yourself to be vulnerable, some clients may still have reservations specially when opening up about deeply personal experiences. These fears may also increase if a strong client-therapist relationship has not been established.
Fear of Making Things Worse
Clients may think that revisiting painful memories will only add to their current distress and therefore continue avoiding and not addressing what could be the root cause of their issues.
Fear of Losing Their Identity
Although their previous coping patterns may have been unhealthy, letting go of these may feel like losing a part of themselves and question who they are without their trauma and how to go about with their life.
Fear of Change
As much as they may want change, sometimes clients are still fearful of it because this will lead to different coping patterns, having to change their mindset, and let go of what feel comfortable at the time which they may not feel prepared for.
Addressing These Fears
It is normal to be fearful especially when doing trauma work.
Work with your therapist to learn calming and grounding techniques that you can implement to help you feel more emotionally secure.
You are in control of your treatment, so communicate with your therapist if you need a break or need help better understanding the process.
Work with your therapist to explore and understand your fears and where they are coming from.
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